I suppose the "no news is good news" will have to be my excuse for not writing an update sooner. Septimus is still hanging out, and all is well with the pregnancy--aside from the typical close-to-delivery woes like an aching back, swollen legs and ankles, heartburn, and other sundry discomforts. But today I received a reminder to be thankful no matter what my circumstances...two friends are having difficulties with their pregnancies, a sobering reality check that makes me reaffirm God's sovereignty whether or not events coincide with our human expectations.
(If you have a moment, would you please lift up A in your prayers? She is delivering her baby at 34 weeks because of complications. A couple of years ago she gave birth at 36 weeks knowing her little one had just entered God's kingdom. I can't even imagine that heartbreak, but A and her husband K have a beautiful testimony of God's grace and are a strong, godly young couple whom I admire very much, even though I have spent next to no time at all with them in person. And my friend T is experiencing bleeding in her 10th week of pregnancy with her 13th child, so prayers for her would be appreciated as well.)
So with those prayer requests in mind, I'm simply thankful that our little guy is still kicking around inside of me, even though I grow weary of waiting and wondering when he will make his appearance. As happened with Zaden...and with Lucan...I have had several false alarms, with strong contractions coming anywhere from 5-10 minutes apart, getting stronger, preventing sleep, etc., going on for several hours at a time. Any doctor would tell me to get to the hospital, but since this has happened with my previous boys, I've been loathe to run to the delivery ward only to have to be monitored and whatnot and then sent home. It's exhausting mentally and emotionally, not to mention physically. And one day this past week I met with the uncertainty of thinking my water had possibly broken--it hadn't, but it took a trip to the ward to get tested to make sure.
My prayer has been that we would KNOW for sure beyond any doubt when my labor really HAS begun, that God would graciously allow it to happen at a time when we can make necessary arrangements for the children and get to the hospital in a timely manner. Since I had had several false alarms or "practice sessions" with Zaden, by the time labor really WAS progressing, the contractions really were not that bad, and I arrived at the hospital already dilated to almost 9. So I'm slightly concerned that I won't really know when to take things seriously!!
My next appointment is Tuesday, the day before we hit 39 weeks. I'm trying to mentally prepare for 41 weeks of pregnancy because it's too hard to get my hopes up thinking it's time when my body stops a few hours later and laughs at me for getting all worked up!
August 10, 2013
July 23, 2013
Pregnancy/Bed Rest Update
Tomorrow we hit 36 weeks in this pregnancy, which is a wonderful milestone to hit after the threat of pre-term labor! I saw my doctor yesterday, who asked me to maintain bed rest until Friday. He prefers that we at least get to 37 weeks before delivery, but things seem to be going fine for now. Dr. T will be in Germany through Saturday...of course, there are OB docs on call (he works in the family practice clinic), but if he is around, he'd like to be able to deliver Septimus, and I am perfectly fine with that. Even though I had to switch docs when I hit 32 weeks (because the one I started with is PCSing this month), I was impressed with my initial encounter with Dr. T. He is a father of three himself, and he seems to be in favor of a more natural approach to the whole birthing experience, preferring to allow the baby to be with the mother immediately instead of whisked away, etc. So I'd be happy to have him as our delivery doc!
In the meantime, we're looking at 3 1/2 more days of bed rest! Ted had the presence of mind to remember that we are scheduled to see our chiropractor Friday evening and to ask if it was all right for me to keep that appointment. Dr. T said it would be fine, so Ted and I are continuing with the plans we made a month ago when we set up the appointment--we will see Dr. S and then have ourselves a little date night! Woohoo!
So, life in bed continues, LOL. I'm slowly making my way through Ann Voskamp's One Thousand Gifts, which I began last fall but only had read one chapter before coming home for bed rest. I finished the book about Sabbath rest. I'm 19% of the way through the unabridged version of Les Miserables. I completed one digital scrapbook album, our American history road trip from the fall of 2010, and I am about halfway through our 2011 family album (also digital).
I've read books about diggers and tractors and cars and airplanes over and over and over to Zaden, who insists that most of these vehicles are, in fact, buses. I've read Dr. Seuss's ABC book to Lucan multiple times and carried on conversations with him and his Doof Dog (who now has next to no stuffing, making it a bit difficult to take Doof seriously, seeing as how his head is caving in). I finished reading Little House in the Big Woods to Kenna, and last night we began Little House on the Prairie. Arden and I are about to enter Mirkwood Forest in The Hobbit, and the older three just found out that Professor Slughorn is not, in fact, the new Defense Against the Dark Arts teacher as they had assumed prior to last night's reading of the 6th Harry Potter book.
Friends have come to spend various parts of the day here with us, helping feed the kids lunch, oversee kid activities, and visit with me during quieter moments. We've enjoyed a variety of meals, from stuffed pasta shells to burritos to roasted chicken with homemade mac-n-cheese. We've been so blessed by the prayers, encouragement, and practical help coming from local friends and church family. While part of me is chafing to get up and MOVING again, another part of me is so grateful for the opportunity to see the Body of Christ at work and to just be still and enjoy the precious gifts God has already given me. I'm eager to meet the new little gift He has been growing inside of me...but I'm praying I can be content and wait for God's perfect timing!
In the meantime, we're looking at 3 1/2 more days of bed rest! Ted had the presence of mind to remember that we are scheduled to see our chiropractor Friday evening and to ask if it was all right for me to keep that appointment. Dr. T said it would be fine, so Ted and I are continuing with the plans we made a month ago when we set up the appointment--we will see Dr. S and then have ourselves a little date night! Woohoo!
So, life in bed continues, LOL. I'm slowly making my way through Ann Voskamp's One Thousand Gifts, which I began last fall but only had read one chapter before coming home for bed rest. I finished the book about Sabbath rest. I'm 19% of the way through the unabridged version of Les Miserables. I completed one digital scrapbook album, our American history road trip from the fall of 2010, and I am about halfway through our 2011 family album (also digital).
I've read books about diggers and tractors and cars and airplanes over and over and over to Zaden, who insists that most of these vehicles are, in fact, buses. I've read Dr. Seuss's ABC book to Lucan multiple times and carried on conversations with him and his Doof Dog (who now has next to no stuffing, making it a bit difficult to take Doof seriously, seeing as how his head is caving in). I finished reading Little House in the Big Woods to Kenna, and last night we began Little House on the Prairie. Arden and I are about to enter Mirkwood Forest in The Hobbit, and the older three just found out that Professor Slughorn is not, in fact, the new Defense Against the Dark Arts teacher as they had assumed prior to last night's reading of the 6th Harry Potter book.
Friends have come to spend various parts of the day here with us, helping feed the kids lunch, oversee kid activities, and visit with me during quieter moments. We've enjoyed a variety of meals, from stuffed pasta shells to burritos to roasted chicken with homemade mac-n-cheese. We've been so blessed by the prayers, encouragement, and practical help coming from local friends and church family. While part of me is chafing to get up and MOVING again, another part of me is so grateful for the opportunity to see the Body of Christ at work and to just be still and enjoy the precious gifts God has already given me. I'm eager to meet the new little gift He has been growing inside of me...but I'm praying I can be content and wait for God's perfect timing!
July 16, 2013
Homeschool Recital Performances
Videos for the grandparents! (And other long-distance friends and family who can put up with the shaky video quality because they love our kids, LOL.)
Arden plays "The Entertainer" at warp speed:
Tobin plays "The Pink Panther" theme song:
Charis plays "Minuet in G" on the violin while Arden accompanies her on the piano:
Charis plays "The Midnight Fire Alarm" on the piano (a bit faster than it should be because of nerves, but she kept it together pretty well!):
Arden plays "The Entertainer" at warp speed:
Tobin plays "The Pink Panther" theme song:
Charis plays "Minuet in G" on the violin while Arden accompanies her on the piano:
Charis plays "The Midnight Fire Alarm" on the piano (a bit faster than it should be because of nerves, but she kept it together pretty well!):
July 15, 2013
And Now for Something Completely Different
It's time for an update on LUCAN'S POTTY TRAINING!!
I don't know that I've actually blogged about our efforts; I know it has crossed my Facebook status multiple times, though, as well as been a source of conversational laments with my close mommy friends. So, for those who are uninitiated, here's a rundown...
First, we began to realize that this poor kid just never really had a "prime" potty training window:
I don't know that I've actually blogged about our efforts; I know it has crossed my Facebook status multiple times, though, as well as been a source of conversational laments with my close mommy friends. So, for those who are uninitiated, here's a rundown...
First, we began to realize that this poor kid just never really had a "prime" potty training window:
- He definitely was not ready early as some toddlers are.
- Shortly after he turned 2 years old, his daddy left for 13 months.
- During the time Daddy was away, Baby Zaden was born.
- After Zaden was born, Mommy and Zaden had lots of issues related to nursing.
- By the time Lucan turned 3, Daddy was still gone.
- Two months later, Daddy returned! Yay!
- And then we went on a 30-day road trip.
- And then we returned to Ohio to pack up our house.
- And then we moved overseas.
- And then we lived in a small apartment for two months.
- And then we moved into our house.
- And then, as we were FINALLY feeling at-home, Ted left for a 6-week TDY.
- And THEN Lucan turned FOUR!
Oh, my.
Combine all the transitions and trauma of the last year and a half or so, and it was no wonder Lucan was four years old and still wearing pull-ups. Added to all that, his laid-back yet focused personality weren't conducive to self-motivation...he hated to be torn away from his building projects!
At the same time, it wasn't as if we didn't put forth ANY effort to train him. Before we moved to Italy, he had some potty successes, including a few poops! We were encouraged that maybe it wouldn't be so hard after we got to Italy. Once we felt somewhat "settled" in our apartment, plus having very little that HAD to be done each day, I thought we'd make some focused efforts and really make some headway. Well, we did make focused efforts, and he did make...a small bit of headway...but after finding that he had smeared poop all over the balcony one afternoon, I decided that I was NOT ready to deal with this and maybe it would be better to wait until we got settled in our actual house.
More attempts. More failure. Finally we decided not to worry about it until after Ted returned from his 6 week course in Texas--I was early on in my pregnancy and not feeling up to the potty challenge.
We desperately tried to get Lucan to even approach consistency, but to no avail. Plus, he simply WOULD NOT poop on the potty. He seemed agreeable enough, even sitting on the potty for 10-15 minutes at a time, but with no results. And he was happy enough to run and pee when we asked him to (even graduating to standing up instead of sitting), but it was NEVER his own idea.
We gave up and put him in pull-ups for the duration of our road trip.
After our return, we ditched the pull-ups (except at night) and told him it would be underwear only during the day.
Also, I found a potty training book (how many of those have I browsed over the years?!) at the thrift store during a Bag Sale Day and figured it couldn't hurt!
Well!!
That book gave us the idea that was the TURNING POINT!!
There was a special section on kids who were delayed potty trainers for whatever reason, so I just focused on that. Their solution was to have the child clean up his own mess, and once everything was clean, to have him run from the location of the accident to the nearest toilet and go through the motions of taking down his pants, sitting on the toilet, "finishing," and then doing that whole routine TEN TIMES.
Thankfully, Lucan's first few accidents happened when Ted was home, so we were able to have Ted do this with him instead of me having to figure out how to add this into my regular routines. As you can imagine, the first couple of times of RUNNING TO THE POTTY were like a game!! Oh, so fun! But ten times?! The fun definitely wore off.
Would you believe...I think Ted only did that with him a couple of times, and all of a sudden, poop success!! AND Lucan started making sure he got himself to the potty when he needed to pee instead of waiting for us to prompt him!
We were so excited. I made a new potty chart: yellow stars for the days he has no pee accidents and brown stars for the days he has no poop accidents. (Gross, I know, but it is working for him!)
And then I went into the hospital with pre-term labor. Ugh. I was away for over 5 days.
We were concerned that Lucan would revert to his original potty problems, but I am SO THANKFUL to report that he is doing GREAT! The only poop accident he has had in the last week and a half or so was when someone was using the toilet he was headed to and he had to run upstairs...and didn't quite make it! And only one pee accident that whole time. He is still wearing pull-ups to bed, but he's been dry maybe 50% of the time, and honestly, that's the least of our concerns now. Our big prayer was that he would be completely daytime potty trained before the Baby's arrival, and God has graciously brought us through a very, very frustrating time to some profound success in the last couple of weeks. Thank the Lord!!
It seems like such a minor issue, especially since we really haven't had potty training problems for YEARS! Tobin proved a bit challenging because he thought it was so fun to let fly in...um...unique locations, but Charis took the initiative to train both Arden and Kenna, so it had been awhile since we were actively involved in the process! But this "minor issue" was starting to consume my life, causing me much stress and frustration, and I hated that. I'm so grateful that we seem to be over the hump. Plus, Lucan's new self-confidence and happiness with himself is an added bonus in seeing him graduate to full-time dry/clean underwear!
July 14, 2013
Rest
Is it just me, or does God have a gut-busting sense of humor?!
The book my PWOC (Protestant Women of the Chapel) summer study group is reading is...
Rest: Living in Sabbath Simplicity, by Keri Wyatt Kent.
Bwahahaha! And here I am on bed rest, which allowed me to catch up on my homework reading, LOL. The session started in May, and we've kind of gone fairly slowly through the book--not everyone had a copy at first, and the chapters were long...and then our family vacation happened, so I didn't feel like I really got in a groove with the whole Bible study book routine like I have the past couple of semesters.
But I was excited about the topic, because it has crossed my radar more than once...the idea of being more intentional in creating a 24-hour period of true REST. In fact, we've even heard sermons (whole series even!) from our previous couple of pastors about this, as well as seen examples in the pastoral staff taking rest days (not Sundays!).
In theory, we absolutely agreed with the idea that "Remember the Sabbath day" was not a command that Christ came to abolish, despite what the Pharisees thought of his healing-at-the-synagogue tendencies.
In practice...well, we never really got around to figuring out just what a "Sabbath day" in the 21st century should look like. And then we moved into an Italian house a considerable drive from the Support Site Chapel, where we spent a good portion of our waking Sunday hours during the school year since the AWANA clubs meet Sunday afternoons. Between making two round trips, attending church, plus being involved in AWANA...well, Sundays began to feel more like work than rest. I gave up and soon began getting our groceries on Sundays as well. Since we were making the trip to SS, we might as well hit up the commissary, right?!
So reading this book has been very timely. For one thing, summer has slowed down drastically because of the break in AWANA, allowing us to focus on Sundays as our actual rest days. We aren't sure what the coming school year will look like as Ted takes over the AWANA Commander position, but for now, we've been purposeful about NOT going grocery shopping on Sundays, preparing meals in advance (or making sure there are enough leftovers!), and spending quality time with each other (and with a pillow, ha!) during the afternoons.
There's more to it than simply resting or avoiding work, though, and that's where this blog post comes in. I wanted to try to capsulize some of the things I've been mulling over as a result of reading this book so that I can share them with Ted (and anyone else who feels they don't have time to read the whole book!). I think the easiest thing is to simply quote some passages that have stood out to me so far...
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"We can be intentional without becoming institutional" (p. 11).
"If we rest from shopping, buying, or even writing a shopping list, we reject the idea, if only for a while, that we are what we buy. If we rest from our work, from endless meetings and tasks, we reject the idea, if only for a day, that our value lies in our accomplishments" (p. 30).
"We are never fully engaged, and we never take time to disengage" (p. 31).
"In resting, you experience the abundant grace of God, a lavish gift never earned, only received. His presence relieves our soul loneliness in a way that no one and no thing ever could" (p. 50).
[Quoting Mark Buchanan from his book The Rest of God]: "The Exodus command, with its call to imitation, plays on a hidden irony: we mimic God in order to remember we're not God. In fact, that is a good definition of Sabbath: imitating God so that we stop trying to be God" (p. 73).
"Keeping Sabbath is not only about ceasing but also about celebrating. How? By taking the time to do simple things you always say you mean to do but never have time for" (p. 79).
[Another quote from Mark Buchanan's book The Rest of God]: "Sabbath is not the break we're allotted at the tail end of completing all our tasks and chores, the fulfillment of all our obligations. It's the rest we take smack-dab in the middle of them, without apology, without guilt, and for no better reason than that God told us we could" (p. 80).
"Our workaholic tendencies are often driven by fear--that we will not have enough; that if we don't accomplish, we don't have value. Sabbath-keeping challenges us to experience the provision of God and the unearned love of God" (p. 104).
"It's not nicer or better to say yes, because every time you say yes, you're saying no. Saying yes to one thing means you've said no to alternatives. Choose your yeses carefully" (p. 127).
[Regarding mothers/women in particular]: "Ironically, because we don't think of what we do as work, we never stop working" (p. 130).
"At each breath, we take only as much as we need for that moment. We breathe in and breathe out....But then we pause. The pause, in a typical breathing pattern, is about as long as the inhalation and exhalation combined" (p. 139).
"The key to endurance and strength is resting--not just once a week but on a regular basis" (p. 139).
"You do not have to be an Olympic-level Sabbath-keeper. The Sabbath was made for people, Jesus said. It's a tool you can use to become healthier spiritually--more connected with the God who loves you, more peaceful, more joyful. Not perfectly any of those things. Just healthier" (p. 167).
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I still have one chapter left in the book. Some things I appreciate about the opportunity to read and learn from Kent's Rest:
The book my PWOC (Protestant Women of the Chapel) summer study group is reading is...
Rest: Living in Sabbath Simplicity, by Keri Wyatt Kent.
Bwahahaha! And here I am on bed rest, which allowed me to catch up on my homework reading, LOL. The session started in May, and we've kind of gone fairly slowly through the book--not everyone had a copy at first, and the chapters were long...and then our family vacation happened, so I didn't feel like I really got in a groove with the whole Bible study book routine like I have the past couple of semesters.
But I was excited about the topic, because it has crossed my radar more than once...the idea of being more intentional in creating a 24-hour period of true REST. In fact, we've even heard sermons (whole series even!) from our previous couple of pastors about this, as well as seen examples in the pastoral staff taking rest days (not Sundays!).
In theory, we absolutely agreed with the idea that "Remember the Sabbath day" was not a command that Christ came to abolish, despite what the Pharisees thought of his healing-at-the-synagogue tendencies.
In practice...well, we never really got around to figuring out just what a "Sabbath day" in the 21st century should look like. And then we moved into an Italian house a considerable drive from the Support Site Chapel, where we spent a good portion of our waking Sunday hours during the school year since the AWANA clubs meet Sunday afternoons. Between making two round trips, attending church, plus being involved in AWANA...well, Sundays began to feel more like work than rest. I gave up and soon began getting our groceries on Sundays as well. Since we were making the trip to SS, we might as well hit up the commissary, right?!
So reading this book has been very timely. For one thing, summer has slowed down drastically because of the break in AWANA, allowing us to focus on Sundays as our actual rest days. We aren't sure what the coming school year will look like as Ted takes over the AWANA Commander position, but for now, we've been purposeful about NOT going grocery shopping on Sundays, preparing meals in advance (or making sure there are enough leftovers!), and spending quality time with each other (and with a pillow, ha!) during the afternoons.
There's more to it than simply resting or avoiding work, though, and that's where this blog post comes in. I wanted to try to capsulize some of the things I've been mulling over as a result of reading this book so that I can share them with Ted (and anyone else who feels they don't have time to read the whole book!). I think the easiest thing is to simply quote some passages that have stood out to me so far...
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"We can be intentional without becoming institutional" (p. 11).
"If we rest from shopping, buying, or even writing a shopping list, we reject the idea, if only for a while, that we are what we buy. If we rest from our work, from endless meetings and tasks, we reject the idea, if only for a day, that our value lies in our accomplishments" (p. 30).
"We are never fully engaged, and we never take time to disengage" (p. 31).
"In resting, you experience the abundant grace of God, a lavish gift never earned, only received. His presence relieves our soul loneliness in a way that no one and no thing ever could" (p. 50).
[Quoting Mark Buchanan from his book The Rest of God]: "The Exodus command, with its call to imitation, plays on a hidden irony: we mimic God in order to remember we're not God. In fact, that is a good definition of Sabbath: imitating God so that we stop trying to be God" (p. 73).
"Keeping Sabbath is not only about ceasing but also about celebrating. How? By taking the time to do simple things you always say you mean to do but never have time for" (p. 79).
[Another quote from Mark Buchanan's book The Rest of God]: "Sabbath is not the break we're allotted at the tail end of completing all our tasks and chores, the fulfillment of all our obligations. It's the rest we take smack-dab in the middle of them, without apology, without guilt, and for no better reason than that God told us we could" (p. 80).
"Our workaholic tendencies are often driven by fear--that we will not have enough; that if we don't accomplish, we don't have value. Sabbath-keeping challenges us to experience the provision of God and the unearned love of God" (p. 104).
"It's not nicer or better to say yes, because every time you say yes, you're saying no. Saying yes to one thing means you've said no to alternatives. Choose your yeses carefully" (p. 127).
[Regarding mothers/women in particular]: "Ironically, because we don't think of what we do as work, we never stop working" (p. 130).
"At each breath, we take only as much as we need for that moment. We breathe in and breathe out....But then we pause. The pause, in a typical breathing pattern, is about as long as the inhalation and exhalation combined" (p. 139).
"The key to endurance and strength is resting--not just once a week but on a regular basis" (p. 139).
"You do not have to be an Olympic-level Sabbath-keeper. The Sabbath was made for people, Jesus said. It's a tool you can use to become healthier spiritually--more connected with the God who loves you, more peaceful, more joyful. Not perfectly any of those things. Just healthier" (p. 167).
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I still have one chapter left in the book. Some things I appreciate about the opportunity to read and learn from Kent's Rest:
- Learning more cultural information about the hows and whys of Israel's Sabbaths.
- Some in-depth study about Jewish culture in both Old and New Testament time periods.
- Practical ideas from a variety of family types, from people in various seasons of life.
- Continual reassurance that there IS NO FORMULA!!
- A balanced perspective on keeping the Sabbath because it is a command that is given for our good while remembering the GOOD that comes from it, freeing the reader from legalistic burdens.
- Thought-provoking treatise on a variety of reasons for Sabbath-keeping...it's not simply "rest."
July 11, 2013
A Roller Coaster Day
After not having been checked or monitored since before dinner yesterday, I was rather surprised this morning to have the Italian doctor walk in and announce that I could go home! Since I hadn't had any changes during the time I had been without any anti-contraction medicine, they were willing to release me, and I for one wasn't going to question them! I called Ted immediately, knowing that he was planning to bring the kids in to visit shortly--I wanted to tell him not to rush, because I had a feeling it could still be awhile before the papers were actually signed.
And I was right.
The kids showed up with Ted about an hour later. I had everything packed and was sitting in regular clothes (hooray for no more hospital gown) when a nurse came in with the monitor. Of course! They hadn't checked Baby's heartbeat or my contractions, so of course they wanted to do that one more time.
So I get put on the monitors. Gina, the liaison from the Support Site, and Cdr J, who is handling my case, arrived soon after that, along with one of the base chaplains and an Italian doctor. It was quite a circus--all 8 of our family members plus 4 extra adults AND my doctor from SS on the phone trying to talk to me on Cdr J's cell phone while the monitors beeped and swished loudly beside me.
Dr. T expressed concern that the Italians apparently have a different philosophy regarding my situation--for example, since I wasn't showing progress, they were perfectly happy to let me go home to rest. The American team wasn't so happy with me going home to rest, given my case history. So he wanted to ask me some questions and then consult with the OB who had been on call Saturday night plus the SS pediatric team.
Meanwhile...
The monitor was registering regular contractions. They weren't painful, but they were definitely showing up. I suspect it was the stress of waiting so long in the hospital after being told I could go home!! Everyone else in the room seemed utterly unconcerned, though, so I didn't think much about it, thinking only about getting the discharge paperwork so I could go home and get in my own comfy bed.
Finally everyone left the room, with the doctor having said that he would make copies of the paperwork and I was free to go. Gina said she would come back for my signature and it would, basically, be a done deal.
The little ones were getting very squirrelly. By this time it was well after 1pm--I was wishing that I had asked that they bring me lunch after all. I had given the kids every last bite of edible substance that I had on hand, and we were all quite hungry. We sent Ted and the younger 4 down to the parking lot, with Charis and Tobin to help me carry anything else that needed to go home, assuming that the three of us would meet him at the front door shortly.
I was still hooked up to the monitors. And still having contractions.
I rang the nurse button to communicate that I was ready to go home, had signed papers, and the doctor was all right with me leaving. She took one look at the printout, said "Five more minutes," and left.
More waiting. Longer than 5 minutes. Another ring on the nurse bell. Another strange look when I asked about going home--I could tell some of the Italian staff weren't buying the one doctor's notion that I was in any shape to walk out of there. There was some discussion about paperwork...which I had been under the impression was already finished.
Another phone call, this time Dr. T calling my cell phone directly. He and the OB had discussed my case, and this was their recommendation...
First, the OB doc had wanted me on bed rest AT THE SUPPORT SITE HOSPITAL. Dr. T (the family practice doc whom I've been seeing) disagreed, saying that non-sick people don't need to be at the hospital. However, his concern was my proximity to hospital care. Since we live in town, plus the fact that I've had this pre-term labor stuff going on, plus the fact that I'm carrying Baby #7, he would "feel better" if I were to basically hang out closer to the SS hospital.
How to do this, you ask?
"The Stork's Nest." Three rooms (basically bachelor's quarters) set aside for similar circumstances right across the street from the hospital. Unlike being IN the hospital, no one would be cooking for me (without me making arrangements to have meals brought to me), and, oh yes, we would pay $50 per day for the privilege of staying there.
Are you kidding me?! How is THAT supposed to help me rest??! This was beyond confusing to me anyway, because everyone kept saying to me that if I were to deliver in the next week or so, it should take place at the Italian hospital because of their NICU! So HOW did it make sense for me to move into an unfamiliar place if they would just have to transfer me back to the other side of town should I go into labor anyway?!
Grrrrr. Dr. T was very nice about it all, and I'm sure this is just a matter of them needing to cover all their bases, but since I was caught in the middle of the question of whether I was even going to be able to leave the Italian hospital to begin with, I simply wrote down his contact info and told him I'd call him back.
I called Ted and told him to bring the kids back so we could at least buy everyone some hospital panini and feed the starving masses. Back they trudged while I called Gina to try to figure out what was going on. She stopped by the room soon after to assure me that the paperwork was indeed finalized, and as soon as I got taken off the monitors I could leave.
Ted took the boys and Kenna to get panini and pizza slices while a nurse came in to check my cervix, which I actually agreed was a good idea at that point. (Still contracting!!) From what I could understand, nothing had changed, so I eagerly waited for someone to confirm that we could actually leave the hospital. No one returned. The kids were beyond stir crazy by this point (well, the younger two boys, actually...my older ones were taking all of this in stride!), so I finally told Ted that maybe he should just take all the kids home and wait to hear from me as to whether I was allowed to leave or not. So Ted left with the kids--but THANK GOD he decided to stick his head in the doctor's office on the way out to ask what the heck was going on--and the doctor, OH JOY!, waved his hand and said, "Go home!!"
WOOHOO!! The kids and Ted ran back to get me, and we ALL left the hospital TOGETHER! I called Dr. T to let him know that we were politely declining the option of getting a room at the Stork's Nest, and after more consultations, he called me back a couple of hours later to tell me basically what we had already decided:
If I go into labor in the next 8 days, I am to go straight to the Italian hospital. If we make it beyond that point, I can come to the Support Site hospital. In the meantime, I am on STRICT bed rest.
But I am on MY OWN BED!!!! How can this not be more restful for me?! OK, sure, I'll miss the amazing Italian lunches and dinners (but the thought of facing one more breakfast in that hospital makes me want to hurl jam), but aside from that...just being away from my family I think causes me more stress! At least here at home I can cuddle on my bed and read stories with them! And we have people willing to help out, so we'll line up some caregivers for next week when Ted goes back to work. We have a few days to get things in place, and honestly, Ted can take more time off work if he needs to, although I'd rather have him save that for when the baby comes.
Whew. This has been quite a journey, and Septimus hasn't even arrived yet! Please join us in praying that we can wait another 8 days or so before that happens! Thank you for all your prayers on our behalf this week!
And I was right.
The kids showed up with Ted about an hour later. I had everything packed and was sitting in regular clothes (hooray for no more hospital gown) when a nurse came in with the monitor. Of course! They hadn't checked Baby's heartbeat or my contractions, so of course they wanted to do that one more time.
So I get put on the monitors. Gina, the liaison from the Support Site, and Cdr J, who is handling my case, arrived soon after that, along with one of the base chaplains and an Italian doctor. It was quite a circus--all 8 of our family members plus 4 extra adults AND my doctor from SS on the phone trying to talk to me on Cdr J's cell phone while the monitors beeped and swished loudly beside me.
Dr. T expressed concern that the Italians apparently have a different philosophy regarding my situation--for example, since I wasn't showing progress, they were perfectly happy to let me go home to rest. The American team wasn't so happy with me going home to rest, given my case history. So he wanted to ask me some questions and then consult with the OB who had been on call Saturday night plus the SS pediatric team.
Meanwhile...
The monitor was registering regular contractions. They weren't painful, but they were definitely showing up. I suspect it was the stress of waiting so long in the hospital after being told I could go home!! Everyone else in the room seemed utterly unconcerned, though, so I didn't think much about it, thinking only about getting the discharge paperwork so I could go home and get in my own comfy bed.
Finally everyone left the room, with the doctor having said that he would make copies of the paperwork and I was free to go. Gina said she would come back for my signature and it would, basically, be a done deal.
The little ones were getting very squirrelly. By this time it was well after 1pm--I was wishing that I had asked that they bring me lunch after all. I had given the kids every last bite of edible substance that I had on hand, and we were all quite hungry. We sent Ted and the younger 4 down to the parking lot, with Charis and Tobin to help me carry anything else that needed to go home, assuming that the three of us would meet him at the front door shortly.
I was still hooked up to the monitors. And still having contractions.
I rang the nurse button to communicate that I was ready to go home, had signed papers, and the doctor was all right with me leaving. She took one look at the printout, said "Five more minutes," and left.
More waiting. Longer than 5 minutes. Another ring on the nurse bell. Another strange look when I asked about going home--I could tell some of the Italian staff weren't buying the one doctor's notion that I was in any shape to walk out of there. There was some discussion about paperwork...which I had been under the impression was already finished.
Another phone call, this time Dr. T calling my cell phone directly. He and the OB had discussed my case, and this was their recommendation...
First, the OB doc had wanted me on bed rest AT THE SUPPORT SITE HOSPITAL. Dr. T (the family practice doc whom I've been seeing) disagreed, saying that non-sick people don't need to be at the hospital. However, his concern was my proximity to hospital care. Since we live in town, plus the fact that I've had this pre-term labor stuff going on, plus the fact that I'm carrying Baby #7, he would "feel better" if I were to basically hang out closer to the SS hospital.
How to do this, you ask?
"The Stork's Nest." Three rooms (basically bachelor's quarters) set aside for similar circumstances right across the street from the hospital. Unlike being IN the hospital, no one would be cooking for me (without me making arrangements to have meals brought to me), and, oh yes, we would pay $50 per day for the privilege of staying there.
Are you kidding me?! How is THAT supposed to help me rest??! This was beyond confusing to me anyway, because everyone kept saying to me that if I were to deliver in the next week or so, it should take place at the Italian hospital because of their NICU! So HOW did it make sense for me to move into an unfamiliar place if they would just have to transfer me back to the other side of town should I go into labor anyway?!
Grrrrr. Dr. T was very nice about it all, and I'm sure this is just a matter of them needing to cover all their bases, but since I was caught in the middle of the question of whether I was even going to be able to leave the Italian hospital to begin with, I simply wrote down his contact info and told him I'd call him back.
I called Ted and told him to bring the kids back so we could at least buy everyone some hospital panini and feed the starving masses. Back they trudged while I called Gina to try to figure out what was going on. She stopped by the room soon after to assure me that the paperwork was indeed finalized, and as soon as I got taken off the monitors I could leave.
Ted took the boys and Kenna to get panini and pizza slices while a nurse came in to check my cervix, which I actually agreed was a good idea at that point. (Still contracting!!) From what I could understand, nothing had changed, so I eagerly waited for someone to confirm that we could actually leave the hospital. No one returned. The kids were beyond stir crazy by this point (well, the younger two boys, actually...my older ones were taking all of this in stride!), so I finally told Ted that maybe he should just take all the kids home and wait to hear from me as to whether I was allowed to leave or not. So Ted left with the kids--but THANK GOD he decided to stick his head in the doctor's office on the way out to ask what the heck was going on--and the doctor, OH JOY!, waved his hand and said, "Go home!!"
WOOHOO!! The kids and Ted ran back to get me, and we ALL left the hospital TOGETHER! I called Dr. T to let him know that we were politely declining the option of getting a room at the Stork's Nest, and after more consultations, he called me back a couple of hours later to tell me basically what we had already decided:
If I go into labor in the next 8 days, I am to go straight to the Italian hospital. If we make it beyond that point, I can come to the Support Site hospital. In the meantime, I am on STRICT bed rest.
But I am on MY OWN BED!!!! How can this not be more restful for me?! OK, sure, I'll miss the amazing Italian lunches and dinners (but the thought of facing one more breakfast in that hospital makes me want to hurl jam), but aside from that...just being away from my family I think causes me more stress! At least here at home I can cuddle on my bed and read stories with them! And we have people willing to help out, so we'll line up some caregivers for next week when Ted goes back to work. We have a few days to get things in place, and honestly, Ted can take more time off work if he needs to, although I'd rather have him save that for when the baby comes.
Whew. This has been quite a journey, and Septimus hasn't even arrived yet! Please join us in praying that we can wait another 8 days or so before that happens! Thank you for all your prayers on our behalf this week!
July 10, 2013
Day 4--A Fresh Start
My day began around 5am with an uncomfortable awakening--painful contractions plus my arm being stiff from the IV. After trying to get back to sleep, I gave up, freshened up in the bathroom, and let the nurses know I was having some painful contractions even with the medicine.
More monitoring. The contractions, which were registering around 25% last night, got as high as 70% or so. After they removed the monitors, I ate my breakfast, and soon after the doctor came in to speak with me. The doctors (I think I've seen at least 3 or 4?) speak enough English that I can usually figure out what they are trying to tell me, and this one brought what I consider to be good news.
Since the steroid for Baby's lungs is now fully in our system, they don't like to continue the anti-contraction medicine. So he had the nurse remove the IV (although the needle is still currently in my arm). They want to do a blood sugar test just before lunch to see if my sugar levels could have caused the increase in contractions (which I doubt, because they were happening off and on throughout the night plus into the morning, and I didn't eat until AFTER the monitoring). And then they will recheck my cervix.
Of course they want to keep me here at least today, possibly tomorrow, to see what happens. IF, by chance, my cervix doesn't dilate any more, if there are NO more labor signs, they will send me home. If labor begins in the next week, I return here immediately to deliver. If I make it beyond that, he said it would be all right to deliver at the Support Site. But the SS hospital is not equipped to deal with babies who arrive early, as I've already been told! So at least all my info is already on file here.
Now that I have no meds going into my system, I feel like today will be very interesting! I haven't noticed any increase in frequency or intensity since the IV stopped about an hour ago, so we will see what happens. In the meantime, "Septimus" has been moving and grooving, and they have not seemed concerned about his well-being, so I refuse to worry about it either! God is in control...He knit both Septimus AND his mama and put us here at just this time for a reason!
More monitoring. The contractions, which were registering around 25% last night, got as high as 70% or so. After they removed the monitors, I ate my breakfast, and soon after the doctor came in to speak with me. The doctors (I think I've seen at least 3 or 4?) speak enough English that I can usually figure out what they are trying to tell me, and this one brought what I consider to be good news.
Since the steroid for Baby's lungs is now fully in our system, they don't like to continue the anti-contraction medicine. So he had the nurse remove the IV (although the needle is still currently in my arm). They want to do a blood sugar test just before lunch to see if my sugar levels could have caused the increase in contractions (which I doubt, because they were happening off and on throughout the night plus into the morning, and I didn't eat until AFTER the monitoring). And then they will recheck my cervix.
Of course they want to keep me here at least today, possibly tomorrow, to see what happens. IF, by chance, my cervix doesn't dilate any more, if there are NO more labor signs, they will send me home. If labor begins in the next week, I return here immediately to deliver. If I make it beyond that, he said it would be all right to deliver at the Support Site. But the SS hospital is not equipped to deal with babies who arrive early, as I've already been told! So at least all my info is already on file here.
Now that I have no meds going into my system, I feel like today will be very interesting! I haven't noticed any increase in frequency or intensity since the IV stopped about an hour ago, so we will see what happens. In the meantime, "Septimus" has been moving and grooving, and they have not seemed concerned about his well-being, so I refuse to worry about it either! God is in control...He knit both Septimus AND his mama and put us here at just this time for a reason!
Day 3--Tuesday
Yesterday was considerably uneventful for the majority of the day. In some ways it was similar to the way I spent Monday. The family came to visit before lunch; I had a nap after lunch; I passed the time by reading, praying, reading some more, and working on a digital scrapbook.
The "main event," in my estimation, was that I was to get the IV removed, since the doctor had told me he would put me on oral medicine since my contractions hadn't really reappeared. Apparently the time line I had in my head (from what I had understood originally) did not match up with the Italian time line...which is not surprising! I did end up asking about the oral meds, because the morning came and went and I was still on the IV.
Around lunch time they finally did remove the IV--but I didn't take any oral medication until 7pm. I didn't understand this, but since my nap happened in the middle of that time period, and since they did hook me up to monitors a couple of times during this, I didn't really pursue asking. (I'm probably not as aggressive or curious of a patient as I should be?!) I don't know if they wanted to wait a certain time between treatments or what--I got my pill around 5:30 but was told to wait and take it around 7:00.
Meanwhile, contractions picked up. Not terribly, but enough to be noticeable. Ted returned by himself in the evening so we could have some time with just the two of us, and he was here during another monitoring session, during which time I was hooked up to a more sensitive monitor. I had noticed that during my earlier monitoring sessions, I was feeling some contractions that weren't registering on the graph, and I mentioned that to the commander who is overseeing my case who called to check on me in the evening. Obviously calls were made, because then this "new" machine was brought in and I was hooked up. Thankfully we noted that it was indeed picking up everything I was feeling, which made me feel better--at least the staff were going to get a more clear picture of what was going on.
Ted had to leave before I was finished, so he missed the end of my day--being told that the oral meds (which had been in my system 2.5 hours by this point) were not going to work and I needed to go back on the IV. Sadly, they had completely removed my original pick line--I should have asked them to keep it in place just in case!! I even wondered about it at the time, but...again...didn't speak up. Sigh. So the nurse, who is incredibly kind and sweet, put a new line in, but this one was in the crook of my right elbow. Ouch. It isn't a great place for an IV in my opinion!
The doctor checked my cervix and found that nothing had changed--I was still only dilated to 3cm and Baby's head was not engaged, so that was encouraging. But when everyone left the room, I confess I shed some tears of self-pity. I only foresaw being here for days and days, with an uncomfortable IV line in my dominant arm. To top it off, some of the varicose veins in my right leg (right behind my knee) began paining me greatly. I didn't know how I was going to get any sleep.
I spent some time reading some precious promises in Scripture, encouraging passages that reminded me that my hope is in the Lord and not in medicine! Here are a few...
Job 23:8-12
2 Corinthians 4:16-18
Hebrews 12:1-3
Psalm 139
I made a list of things to be thankful for and went to bed feeling that this too shall pass.
1. In the middle of summer in Naples, I have an air-conditioned room!
2. I am in a mosquito-free environment!
3. I can look forward to breakfast (and lunch and dinner) in bed! For who knows how long!
4. And I don't have to cook it OR clean up afterward!
5. I have an amazing husband in Ted who is pulling some amazing Daddy duty and holding our sweet family together!
6. I have amazing kids who are rising to the occasion and helping each other and their dad do what has to be done. They are growing through all this, too!
7. I have an amazing family in Christ, both here and abroad, who are showering me with prayers and encouragement.
8. I have an amazing God who will provide everything we will need and get us through this journey.
The "main event," in my estimation, was that I was to get the IV removed, since the doctor had told me he would put me on oral medicine since my contractions hadn't really reappeared. Apparently the time line I had in my head (from what I had understood originally) did not match up with the Italian time line...which is not surprising! I did end up asking about the oral meds, because the morning came and went and I was still on the IV.
Around lunch time they finally did remove the IV--but I didn't take any oral medication until 7pm. I didn't understand this, but since my nap happened in the middle of that time period, and since they did hook me up to monitors a couple of times during this, I didn't really pursue asking. (I'm probably not as aggressive or curious of a patient as I should be?!) I don't know if they wanted to wait a certain time between treatments or what--I got my pill around 5:30 but was told to wait and take it around 7:00.
Meanwhile, contractions picked up. Not terribly, but enough to be noticeable. Ted returned by himself in the evening so we could have some time with just the two of us, and he was here during another monitoring session, during which time I was hooked up to a more sensitive monitor. I had noticed that during my earlier monitoring sessions, I was feeling some contractions that weren't registering on the graph, and I mentioned that to the commander who is overseeing my case who called to check on me in the evening. Obviously calls were made, because then this "new" machine was brought in and I was hooked up. Thankfully we noted that it was indeed picking up everything I was feeling, which made me feel better--at least the staff were going to get a more clear picture of what was going on.
Ted had to leave before I was finished, so he missed the end of my day--being told that the oral meds (which had been in my system 2.5 hours by this point) were not going to work and I needed to go back on the IV. Sadly, they had completely removed my original pick line--I should have asked them to keep it in place just in case!! I even wondered about it at the time, but...again...didn't speak up. Sigh. So the nurse, who is incredibly kind and sweet, put a new line in, but this one was in the crook of my right elbow. Ouch. It isn't a great place for an IV in my opinion!
The doctor checked my cervix and found that nothing had changed--I was still only dilated to 3cm and Baby's head was not engaged, so that was encouraging. But when everyone left the room, I confess I shed some tears of self-pity. I only foresaw being here for days and days, with an uncomfortable IV line in my dominant arm. To top it off, some of the varicose veins in my right leg (right behind my knee) began paining me greatly. I didn't know how I was going to get any sleep.
I spent some time reading some precious promises in Scripture, encouraging passages that reminded me that my hope is in the Lord and not in medicine! Here are a few...
Job 23:8-12
2 Corinthians 4:16-18
Hebrews 12:1-3
Psalm 139
I made a list of things to be thankful for and went to bed feeling that this too shall pass.
1. In the middle of summer in Naples, I have an air-conditioned room!
2. I am in a mosquito-free environment!
3. I can look forward to breakfast (and lunch and dinner) in bed! For who knows how long!
4. And I don't have to cook it OR clean up afterward!
5. I have an amazing husband in Ted who is pulling some amazing Daddy duty and holding our sweet family together!
6. I have amazing kids who are rising to the occasion and helping each other and their dad do what has to be done. They are growing through all this, too!
7. I have an amazing family in Christ, both here and abroad, who are showering me with prayers and encouragement.
8. I have an amazing God who will provide everything we will need and get us through this journey.
July 09, 2013
Day 2 at Clinica Pineta Grande
Yesterday's hospital stay was rather uneventful. I didn't leave the room at all--no wheeling me downstairs to radiology for an ultrasound/cervix check. A few sessions of monitoring Baby's heartbeat and my contractions and the usual taking of vital signs, and I was pretty much left alone all day.
Ted and the kids came for a very welcome visit about mid-morning. I can't believe how much I miss our exuberant household! I had some very sad, lonely moments after they left! But then they delivered lunch, which was a good pick-me-up...still enjoying the meals here!
So the medical plan was to have me finish out the IV treatment and then give me oral medicine the following day (which is today). I had some stronger contractions now and then throughout the day, but they were never very frequent, and I guess they weren't anything to cause concern when the monitoring sessions captured everything on paper.
I did enjoy a lot of quiet time--I know this is not something I can get every day, so I made the most of it:
Ted and the kids came for a very welcome visit about mid-morning. I can't believe how much I miss our exuberant household! I had some very sad, lonely moments after they left! But then they delivered lunch, which was a good pick-me-up...still enjoying the meals here!
So the medical plan was to have me finish out the IV treatment and then give me oral medicine the following day (which is today). I had some stronger contractions now and then throughout the day, but they were never very frequent, and I guess they weren't anything to cause concern when the monitoring sessions captured everything on paper.
I did enjoy a lot of quiet time--I know this is not something I can get every day, so I made the most of it:
- Listened to worship music
- Watched worship videos
- Listened to a podcast of Sunday's sermon that I missed
- Stood and did some stretching exercises multiple times during the day
- Spent time reading through favorite portions of Isaiah and Psalms
- Did my regular daily Bible reading
- Prayed for my family and many of my friends (Facebook is a great way to see prayer needs!)
- Took a nap
- Updated our budget spreadsheet
- FB chatted my mom and dad a bit--they are (or were) traveling home from a family reunion
- Started reading a book Charis and Tobin wanted me to read: Science Fair by Dave Barry and Ridley Pearson
- Talked to Ted and Charis on the phone
- Began a new My Digital Studio project
Wow! I guess I wasn't too bored!! I got my last set of vitals/monitoring done shortly after dinner, so I went to bed earlier (about 10ish) and managed to sleep until 7 (with a couple of potty runs).
Now I'm awake for Day 3 in the hospital...it's a beautiful, sunny morning, my IV bottle is EMPTY, and I cannot WAIT to get this thing OUT of my arm!! I believe they plan to monitor me another 24 hours after I begin the oral medication, so perhaps this is the last full day I will be here? Tomorrow marks 34 weeks for "Septimus" and me (Septimus is Latin for "seven" and is our joke of a name for Baby!). I'm hopeful we can at least make it to 35 if not 36 weeks or longer, and let me just say, I really, really hope that we don't have to go a full 40 weeks with this gigantoid of a son, LOL!
I humbly offer my very sincere thanks and gratitude for all the prayer support our family has received. Local friends are offering meals and help with child care, and while we haven't formulated a specific plan yet since we don't know if I'll be able to do bed rest at home or if they want me at the SS hospital, we are so appreciative of all the offers and will let people know when we are ready to take them up on those offers.
In the meantime, Ted has this whole week off work for emergency leave, and thankfully the summer is a slow time for NATO, with many folks taking vacations. In fact, most Italians take nearly all of August off, so we were anticipating a lot of family time once Septimus was born...we just hadn't ever anticipated the possibility of him arriving BEFORE August! And maybe he won't!
"I thank my God every time I remember you. In all my prayers for all of you,
I always pray with joy..."
Philippians 1:3-4
July 08, 2013
Adventures in Hospital Showering
After a short night (WHAT was going on in the hall outside my hospital room?!), I found myself lying awake at 5am unable to get back to sleep. Having spent the past 36+ hours in the same hospital gown, I found myself longing for a shower. I knew it would be an ordeal, but I finally gave up trying to get back to sleep and made preparations...
1. Of course I still had to deal with my IV. I decided to take off my hospital gown as best as I could and loop it over the rack, so that I didn't have to thread the whole unit through the sleeve somehow; also, that would make it easier to put back on when I was done.
2. Italian showers are TINY! I barely could squeeze my preggo belly through the doors.
3. When I turned on the water, it shot EVERYWHERE! I twisted it a bit to get the odd random streams to stop shooting over the top of the shower walls, but then the shower stream itself was out of control--crazy hard pressure. By that point I was committed, though!
4. I discovered that Ted had managed to pack me two bottles of conditioner...and no shampoo.
5. The IV is in my right arm...which is a bit tender, of course, so being right-handed, getting through the whole process was harder.
6. When I finished, I discovered that not only was the floor right outside the shower door a giant puddle, but there was water ALLLLL over the door and walls from the random streams! I had to use one of the towels just to mop up all the mess! My non-Old-Navy flip flops were also soaked.
7. However, I feel much cleaner!!
1. Of course I still had to deal with my IV. I decided to take off my hospital gown as best as I could and loop it over the rack, so that I didn't have to thread the whole unit through the sleeve somehow; also, that would make it easier to put back on when I was done.
2. Italian showers are TINY! I barely could squeeze my preggo belly through the doors.
3. When I turned on the water, it shot EVERYWHERE! I twisted it a bit to get the odd random streams to stop shooting over the top of the shower walls, but then the shower stream itself was out of control--crazy hard pressure. By that point I was committed, though!
4. I discovered that Ted had managed to pack me two bottles of conditioner...and no shampoo.
5. The IV is in my right arm...which is a bit tender, of course, so being right-handed, getting through the whole process was harder.
6. When I finished, I discovered that not only was the floor right outside the shower door a giant puddle, but there was water ALLLLL over the door and walls from the random streams! I had to use one of the towels just to mop up all the mess! My non-Old-Navy flip flops were also soaked.
7. However, I feel much cleaner!!
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